The Upper Room devotional reflection for Wednesday, January 19, 2022 comes to us from Helen Pain of England, United Kingdom

37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38 Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” 39 He also told them this parable: “Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into a pit? 40 The student is not above the teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher. 41 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 42 How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Luke 6:37-42 NIV


It was Christmas morning. I got up, went to the bathroom, and found a ring of shaving foam in the sink. I hate it when he doesn’t rinse the basin, I thought. Once I was washed and dressed, I went to the top of the stairs and noticed the curtains hooked up on the window sill. I hate it when he doesn’t straighten the curtains after drawing them back, I thought. Downstairs in the kitchen, I began to prepare breakfast and found the dishcloth had been left balled up in the sink rather than spread out to dry. I hate it when … I stopped mid-thought,

This was the day I was supposed to be celebrating the greatest gift of love the world will ever know, and I could barely contain my irritation at the trivial differences in the way my husband and I do things. I was not looking at my husband with a generous heart. I determined to change my attitude. Day by day I am seeking Christ’s grace and love so that I can attend to my own faults and be more patient with others.


Friends –

I feel certain that most, if not all, of us have someone in our lives whose small habits are annoying at best. Every once in a while, a family member or friend will ask me why I do something in a particular way. Often, that question comes with a bit of a sarcastic tone, implying that their way is a better way to accomplish that task.

Then, like Helen Pain, I remember the times when I have taken a similar attitude. I pray that I haven’t imparted sarcasm, but an attitude of helpfulness. Still, that can feel condescending and judgmental. I need to remember how I feel when someone speaks to me with those kinds of suggestions. Then I need to trust God and behave with patience and grace.

--Pastor bea


Dear Lord Jesus, help us to learn from you how to be tolerant, forgiving, and loving to all whom we meet. Amen.

--Helen Pain

Prayer Focus:

Someone whose habits annoy me.

Thought for the Day:

When I am frustrated with others, I will focus on God’s love for them.


Your eye is the lamp of your body. If your eye is healthy, your whole body is full of light; but if it is not healthy, your body is full of darkness. Therefore, consider whether the light in you is not darkness

Luke 11:34-35 (NRSV)